Exercise 3: Reflective Listening
listening is a key motivational interviewing skill. For each of your
clientís statements below, select the best reflective listening response.
My wife keeps nagging me to quit smoking.
She knew I smoked when she married me. I just want her to get off my
a) But, can you see her point?
b) You donít like your wife nagging you, do you?
wifeís nagging bothers you, and you think she is being unreasonable.
does your wifeís nagging bother you so much?
donít really understand the stress I am under at work. I have a lot of
responsibility. Smoking a little pot when I get home helps me unwind. My husband is just being paranoid. The kids wonít find out, and I can
handle it. Itís not a big deal.
a) Why do you think your husband is worried?
b) Your husbandís concern upsets you.
c) Does your husbandís concern upset you?
d) What would happen if your children found out?
I wish my
parents wouldnít be so suspicious. It really makes me mad. I donít
really drink that much or that often. Some of the kids I hang around
with drink all the time. My parents should be glad I am not like them.
a) It bothers you some that your parents donít trust you.
b) You think your parents are way out of line when it comes to
c) Itís none of your parentís business what you do with your
d) How much are you drinking in a weekend?
Sure, I look at other women, so what? All
men do. Iím not asking them for their phone numbers, but she gets
jealous and goes into a rage. Sometimes I have to get physical to shut
her up, then she calls the cops and itís all on me. That ainít right,
a) You think itís ok to push your wife around?
b) You shouldnít get physical with your wife even if
she is out of line.
c) Why do you look at other women?
like to look at other women and you think your wifeís jealousy and anger
are out of line.